The best way to get girls to want you is to build up attraction. Women are attracted to different things than men. We like to see a girl with a nice firm butt, a small waist, big eyes, etc. Women like to see a guy that looks like he’s in charge of the room.
It’s not that girls are attracted to power. That’s a myth. What women are attracted to is perceived power. They’re attracted to guys that look like men that are in charge. It doesn’t matter to the women that you have power. We’re talking about full on, carnal attraction. The appearance of power, even if the girl knows you have none, is all you need to build up that attraction.
So you need to display that power in everything you do, even when you sit. You need to sit like an alpha male. Here are several ways to showcase your manliness when you’re sitting down.
Take Up Space
The first tip is to take up space – and take up as much space as possible. Guys that are in charge get as much space as they want. Sit like you are the only one that is allowed in your chair or couch. You can do that in a lot of ways:
1) Spread out your legs. You don’t want to spread them out so wide that you look like a slob, but spread them out fairly wide so that you look large and comfortable.
2) Spread out your arms. Put your arms up on the sides of the chair like you are putting your arm around a girl. This comes with the added bonus where if a girl sits next to you your arm is already around her.
Make sure that you are taking up as much room as you can. You can also put your foot on your knee if that is more comfortable for you.
You need to sit like you are relaxed, because alpha males don’t get nervous in the room. That means that in addition to your legs apart, you should be slouching a little – not too much or it will look like you’re hiding, but enough that you look comfortable. Your legs shouldn’t shake and your arms and hands shouldn’t be clenched.
Remember, even though you want to look relaxed, you don’t want to look like a slob. Don’t forget to sit tall. Keep your back mostly straight (little bit of slouch is okay, but not too much), your shoulders out – whatever it takes to make you look powerful.
Finally, when you’re talking to anyone – whether it’s a girl or a buddy – you need to remember to lean back. Don’t lean in to hear what they are saying. Leaning in is a sign of weakness. The alpha male doesn’t need to lean in to listen to other people speak, because the alpha male is the one that everyone else should need to work to hear.
Winning The Girl Over with Your Body Language
How you handle yourself is what is going to build her attraction. Even if you’re a nice guy, you still need to display alpha male body language because that’s the type of body language that girls are attracted to. It’s one of the reasons that girls you’re not interested in start to like you – the body language you show when you’re not interested are nearly identical to the body language an alpha male shows all the time.
So when you’re sitting down, don’t forget to continue to show that body language. How you sit plays a huge role in how you’re perceived by girls. Since you need to appear like an alpha male, you need to make sure that you are showing alpha male behaviors at all times. So sit like a man, man.